The Church and the Genes,
Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder, as many priests have found out
There has been a great cultural war going on over the ages between the genes and the Catholic Church and for many centuries the Church appeared to be winning—those who failed to achieve self control over their urges were for the most part ostracized.. In fact even talking about any aspect of sex was considered offensive so the subject eventually became buried in guilt and shame. But since Freud, Fromm and few others showed us a new way to view sex, we feel we can talk more freely about it and more important, it became apparent that the Church had simply been shoving the evidence under the carpet .
But despite this new attitude the church continues to promote abstinence as the only legitimate means of birth control. Thus, while independent, sexually active women know how to take care of themselves, those who choose abstinence are ill prepared to protect themselves when nature comes calling. And the cost is high. Innocent women are stigmatized , their lives, hopes and dreams shattered. beyond repair. In Morgentalor’s time they called Monday in Toronto hospitals “bloody Monday” as women poured in who had used everything from coat hangers to toxic liquids in order to hide their shame
Well the situation is still brutal. In recent time a woman killed six of her babies rather than incur the wrath of her parents “These are usually girls who are 17, get pregnant, become scared to death and don’t want to tell their parents,” said Meyer, who has written about mothers who kill their children. “They’re not 30-year-old women who can go have an abortion.” – See more at: http://www.timescolonist.com/news/unemotional-mom-admits-strangling-suffocating-her-6-babies-1.954702#sthash.2EdjlN65.dpuf
It becomes obvious that women groomed for abstinence face tragic consequences when they face those moments when their genetic impulses momentarily overpower their will..
And let’s not think of the fate of the unwanted child in this tragedy—too many cases of cruelty to document here.
Sex, of course, isn’t all ponies and rainbows. The United States has one of the highest unintended pregnancy rates in the world. We have one of the highest abortion rates. We have one of the highest rates of sexually transmitted infections. But our problem with sex isn’t that we’re having it before marriage; it’s that we’ve cast it as shameful and dirty. And when our collective cultural consciousness says that sex is shameful and dirty, we don’t have the incentive – or the tools- to plan for sex, to see it as a positive responsibility and to make healthy sexual choices
The above is an excerpt from Jill Filipovic, the Guardiancom, Monday 24 September 2012